Or is he?
Nah, seriously, I doubt it.
The thought just spontaneously popped up in my head this morning as I was studying for my physical geography test. And, as silly as it might sound, it kind of makes sense to me.
Every guy that I have been truly crazy about in the past was not from Georgia. In fact, the vast majority of those guys weren’t even from America – they were from Europe (England, Belgium, and the Czech Republic to be specific). Moreover, almost every guy that I’ve gone crazy over was one that I found thanks to the internet. If it hadn’t been for 21stcentury technology, then my crush/love repertoire would obviously be significantly smaller, and basically I’d be much closer to saying that I’d never truly crushed on much of anyone.
I know I can’t be fast to make judgments about what my future love life holds, but based on past circumstances and based on how I know myself and the way I go about my everyday life, I predict that I will probably meet my future husband through a mutual friend that I meet over the internet or I will meet him directly off the internet (so romantic, right?). I also predict for sure that he will either be from North America (because Canada counts) or from Europe. But I don’t predict that he will be from Georgia.
Guys from Georgia and really just the south in general tend to fall under one of two broad categories: 1) affluent, exclusive, and close-minded, or 2) low-class, rude, and uneducated. Girls (or at least the majority of them like me, anyway) don’t like rude and uneducated guys but also don’t have a particular soft spot for affluent, preppy, rigid, judgmental guys that have the mindset of replacing them the minute that they find a flaw that “isn’t fixable.” This isn’t to say that all guys in Georgia or in America are like this, but American culture has brainwashed and hindered many of them from finding the happy medium of being genuinely accepting and voraciously ambitious. Contrastingly, the European guys I’d personally fallen in love with in the past very much did have these qualities, just because they were born and raised in a different place with a different outlook on life, culture, and education. Occasionally there are Americans like this as well, but the ones I come in contact with are always in other parts of the country. I guess the saying “the things we want most in life are far away” is pretty true.
I’m not opposed to a long distance relationship. In fact, if it were not for the overly long distance between my Czech friend/crush thing and me (7000 km/5,000 miles is quite much, anyway), then I would probably be in a long distance relationship right now. I think that my generation is very fortunate to have the internet and instant access to communication to anyone and everyone in all parts of the world, but obviously there will always be other barriers to overcome simultaneously.
What makes me wonder is this: if I do meet my future husband online or through someone online, then how will I go about meeting and being with him? If he really isn’t from Georgia, then will I actually move to where he is/where he grew up? Or will he move to where I am and start a new life here? Or will we both move elsewhere from where we grew up and pick an entirely new place in the country/on the globe to reside?
Despite the craziness of questions that will have to remain unanswered for some time, as long as he actually finds me, then that’s all I’ll care about the most in the end. I know that the search will take a number of more years and a lot more effort to succeed in, but I think that the journey of getting to the destination will be an enjoyable ride.
Speaking of an enjoyable ride, I’d love to get back to that one of these days. It’s a good thing that surprises don’t happen for no reason!